Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Ten Years of LOVE!

July 2001 - JahCai n Mommy
At 10:15 a.m. on March 31st, 2011 I will be the proud mother of 10 year old JahCai Lerone, my greatest success!

At 19, I didn't know I was pregnant but I gave birth to a handsome, smart and gentle little  boy who now is entering his pre-teen years with mommy biting her nails. Though he has not reached the same milestones that your ordinary 10 year old has, he is becoming a very polite, incredibly patient young man who I am over proud to call my son.

I know that for a young mother, one is often faced with challenges that aren't in the book. I was faced with the challenge that I may never get to move away from JahCai, I will always have to be his mommy. His intellectual IQ is not that of even a three year old, BUT he definitely acts as though he is ten and can and will accomplish every task set forth.
In ten years I have to take credit for bringing up a real black boy AND I didn't hate his father, i actually pittied him at first. How dare he not take interest in our child? How dare he act like he can't be a part of him. But thank GOD he did, JahCai is better for it. His daddy and I tried so hard to make sure that he accepted life and life didn't just accept him. We always wanted him to know that no matter what he is who he is and if people can't accept that, then they should and can move on.

February 2011 JahCai n Aminah
I realize today, ten years after he is birthed, named and blessed, I am JahCai's mommy. I have always been his mommy, our paths NEVER strayed from one another, they always connected in my dreams before he was even thought of and in my prayers as I felt his heart beat next to mine. Ten years is a long time, even longer for those who don't have a chance to get to know their children.

Kiss your babies and tell them no matter what they are special to you. When you push, don't apologize, push harder so they know that you are behind them all the way. When you spank, don't cry, let every tear remind you how much you need your child to be better than you. When you give up, Don't! Look at their faces and remember their purpose for you and your purpose for them.